This week, Kenyans mourned the loss of the Chief of Defense Forces, General Francis Omondi Ogolla, together with several other high ranking army lieutenants in a tragic plane crash.
His final wishes, however, sparked a national conversation about grief, mourning, and the true meaning of a dignified farewell.
The general, known for his humility and dedication to service, requested a simple funeral. He wished to be buried within 72 hours, wrapped only in sheets, forgoing the customary expensive casket.
This act, many say, embodied the essence of the man – a focus on service and a rejection of extravagance.
His will has laid bare the raw emotions that come with loss.
Grief, a crushing weight that descends upon us, is a natural response, a testament to the depth of the bond we shared.
Grief cannot be rushed, nor can it be controlled.
Over time, we enter the realm of mourning – the deeply personal process of navigating this grief. We build an internal map, a way forward through the labyrinth of emotions.
But often, shame lurks beneath the surface. “Should I have done more?” “Did I express my love fully?” These questions, these “shoulds,” bind us with shame’s invisible chains.
Is there a way to confront shame? Perhaps not entirely. But the general’s life and final wishes offer a powerful lesson: shame can be lessened.
By dedicating time, expressing care, and showering love on those closest to us, we create a reservoir of positive memories as expressed by his Son during the memorial service. Each day becomes an opportunity to prevent the well of regret from overflowing.
The general’s simple request reminds us that true respect lies not in material displays, but in honoring a life well-lived. His final act of service – a gift to his family and the nation – is a powerful testament to letting go and embracing what truly matters.
As we mourn the loss of this national hero, let us carry these lessons forward. Let us find solace in shared memories, offer compassion to those grieving, and strive to live each day in a way that prevents future shame.
May the general rest in peace, and may his simple farewell inspire us all to live with purpose and love fully.